I recently had a person come into my office who had tried numerous things to quit smoking and had failed every time. When I spoke with her about her past experiences, she told me about how horrible and "nervous" she felt while on Zyban / Wellbutrin which is something that many clients tell me.

In examining the reasons why she had not been able to stop smoking, I got an answer that seems strange when you think about it logically, but yet is a very common answer… fear of "losing my best friend". How can something be your "best friend" when by your own report, you say you hate the sell, inconvenience and cost? She hated being controlled by cigarettes, but yet called them her "best friend".

The answer surfaced very quickly once I made contact with the "inner smoker" and followed the chain of feelings to determine the "core feeling" was that the "inner smoker" was trying to get by smoking. It was about "love". At the unconscious level, smoking was "love". Any wonder it was hard to quit… love is a very basic human need.
Name: n/g
Location: New York, USA
Date: Friday 23^rd August 2007 4:05am

Hi, just putting together a display for the classroom at school - I have found your site very interesting with lots of information which I can use to try and get over NOT TO SMOKE! thanks
Name : LYNN JOHNSON lynnandgray@supanet.com
Location: WOLVERHAMPTON, WEST MIDLANDS
Date: Thursday 16^th February 2006 8:35pm

Found your site in google, and it has a lot of usefull information. Thanx.
Name: Adderall Adderall@yahoo.com
Web Address: http://adderall.bigtop100.com
Location: Milann, USA
Date: Thursday 8^th December 2005 3:20pm

We have an idea about the law regarding the supply or obtainment of tobacco by under 16s, but cannot find this information in print
Name: Les Neill sueniell@aol.com
Location: Guildford, England
Date: Thursday 8^th September 2005 8:47am

It seems that everytime I read another sufferer's agonizing story, I shed more tears and feel my heart aching more and more! The pain that I feel physically with my respiratory condition and for the sorrow and grief of losing half my sick family to lung cancer and the agonizing sorrow for other sufferers who share my pain seems endless! I wonder when this pain will end. There are no words to begin to describe the horrible ache in my heart and soul for the incredible loss I've experienced from this nasty smoking habit. There are no words and my heart goes out to all the countless other sufferers who are sick from exposure to secondhand smoke and from the grief of losing their own loved ones! Let's keep up the fight and keep up the great important work! We MUST protect children from this nasty heinous poison known as environmental tobacco smoke! Children should be protected and loved, not hurt and poisoned!
Peace and Harmony,
Name: D.A. earthwriter@thetruth.com
Location: USA
Date: Friday 18^th June 2004 5:31pm

It is difficult to calculate the best way to advise on the proven danger of smoking, which has no health benefits, and almost gurantees grave health risk, whilst it is still legal to purchase. As an addictive substance, it is very difficult to give up, therefore it is, of course better not to start. Yet this message seems hypocritical when tobacco companies are free to push their product.
Location: Newcastle, UK
Name: Anon sbebb@btopenworld.co.uk
Date: Friday 4^th June 2004 4:52pm

My mother died 8 weeks ago from small cell lung cancer. She was ill for 2 1/2 years and died the most awful death imaginable. She really suffered a great deal. I am absolutely desparate for my children not to start smoking and think we as parents have a huge responsibility in educating children in the dangers of smoking and give them enough information for them to take the decision not to start smoking.
Name: juliet fagarasan julietf@lineone.net
Location: Swindon, UK
Date: Thursday 13^th May 2004 10:20am

Thanks for letting me visit, your information was wonderful, as well as your games.
Name: Charlotte Vermillion cvermillion@littleshelltribe.us
Location: Great Falls, U.S.A
Website: www.littleshelltribe.us
Date: Monday 22^nd March 2004 9:01pm

Coming from a family of smokers, I gave up smoking for Lent this year. I've just come back from visiting my Uncle in Hospital. Please pray for him and for all those who started smoking before we knew how dangerous it is.
Name: Fr Gerry Drummond frgerry@breathemail.net
Location: Rochford, Essex
Date: Friday 12^th March 2004 12:38am

Excellent! Your site was very informative. It gave information that could be used immediately for instruction or personal research.
Name: Brenda Patterson brenda.patterson@risd.org
Location: Richardson, United States of America
Date: Monday 1^st March 2004 7:54pm

Great site! Thank so much for your efforts to educate and encourage our young people to not smoke.
Name: Denise Swift denise_swift@bigbear.k12.ca.us
Location: Big Bear Lake, CA, U.S.A.
Date: Tuesday 17^th February 2004 6:56pm

What a fantastic resource I will certainly be using it in my lessons this term and again in future
Name: Sue Fearon hopcroft-fearon@tiscali.co.uk
Location: Preston, UK
Date: Friday 16^th January 2004 2:12pm